Music / Real life

Softer Shell

The world made me hard.  i allowed the world to make me hard.

Defending against its onslaughts, i took on a shell. Over time it hardened nicely and kept my soft insides perfectly safe… safe from pain and safe from pleasure. It’s a process, coming out of the shell. Fear drove me into it…  and those things that caused fear are still here, after all.

i find that i’m getting hurt a bit more, i’m super sensitive to things. i’m feeling things i haven’t felt in a very long time and doing things i thought i’d never do again.  It’s liberating and scary as fuck.

The last few months have been full of changes and ripe with opportunities.

i’ve said no to a few things but yes to most.

i have to find a new way of navigating the world, but luckily i’ve found some great tour guides who are helping immensely. i watch them as they interact with those around them… i watch as they open themselves to experiences… as they take chances.  i’m following their cue and slipping out of the shell every chance i get. One day, perhaps, i’ll forget to don it altogether.

i want to be strong without being hard. “You soften me” i said to J today… and it is true. With him, i can be gentler… unguarded… and it’s largely due to his willingness to do the same with me.  His strength does not diminish his gentleness. That’s amazing to me.  i can learn a great deal from him… and his ability to see the beauty in the world around him and to embrace it (and me) warts and all.

Sing by The Dresden Dolls

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